· Montclair, NJ · & · Virtual Across New Jersey ·
You don't need to fall apart to need support.
Therapy intensives and relationship counseling for high-achieving adults and couples in Montclair, NJ and virtually across New Jersey — for those ready to break the pattern, not just talk about it.
The Question Under the Question
"Why do I keep feeling stuck?"
"Why does this relationship still hurt?"
"Why can't I move forward?"
Many of our clients are high-functioning, deeply self-aware, and used to being "the strong one." They've done therapy before. They understand themselves — and they're still asking. Therapy here isn't just coping. It's the work of feeling clearer, more connected, and more like yourself again.
Therapy Intensives
More than a weekly session can hold.
Some seasons of life call for deeper, more concentrated work. Intensives create focused time to slow down, understand the pattern, and work through what weekly therapy often only has time to touch.
- — Rebuilding after betrayal or infidelity
- — Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship
- — Feeling stuck after years of therapy
- — Navigating burnout, resentment, or emotional exhaustion
- — Trying to break long-standing family or relationship patterns
- — Too busy for weekly therapy, but ready for meaningful change
This May Be For You If
You're tired of carrying it alone.
You're the one everyone depends on — but you're exhausted. Your relationship looks fine from the outside, but inside it feels lonely, resentful, or unsure. You've gained insight before, but something deeper still needs to shift. You're ready for support that's warm, honest, and direct — not just a weekly check-in.
Areas of Focus
Specialties
Trauma
Betrayal Trauma & Relationship Therapy
Individual therapy for adults healing from infidelity, betrayal trauma, relationship anxiety, and painful patterns in love, trust, and attachment.
Learn more →Couples & Intensives
Couples Therapy & Relationship Intensives
Focused, in-depth work for couples navigating betrayal, disconnection, or a stay-or-go decision — including a hybrid model combining intensives with ongoing individual sessions.
Learn more →KAP
Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy
A structured, therapist-guided approach that can help process trauma and shift long-standing patterns more deeply than talk therapy alone.
Learn more →Meet the Founder
Alexandria Lanza
LPC, LCADC, ATR-BC, ACS
Alexandria is the founder of Jaded Hearts - Center for Healing in Montclair, NJ. She specializes in helping adults and couples move through relationship trauma, betrayal, emotional burnout, life transitions, and long-standing patterns that keep them feeling stuck.
"Therapy that helps you stop circling the same question and begin trusting yourself again."
Her work blends trauma-informed therapy, attachment work, creative expression, and nervous system awareness with direct, compassionate reflection. Clients describe her style as warm, honest, intuitive, and grounding.
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Common Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
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Individual sessions are $250 for 45 minutes or $350 for an extended 60-minute session. Couples and family sessions are $300 for 45 minutes or $350 for 60 minutes. This is a private-pay practice — see below for how out-of-network reimbursement works.
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The office is at 28 Valley Rd, Suite 1, Montclair, NJ 07042. In-person sessions are available there, alongside virtual sessions for clients anywhere in New Jersey.
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Yes. While the office is based in Montclair, sessions are available virtually anywhere in New Jersey — many clients mix in-person and virtual sessions depending on their schedule.
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Individual intensives range from $500 for 90 minutes up to $1,800 for a full 6-hour intensive, which can be split across two consecutive days. Couples and family intensives range from $600 to $2,400 for the same time blocks. EMDR and art-therapy-integrated intensives follow the same structure and include preparation and integration planning.
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Intensives are available in 90-minute, 2-hour, 3-hour, or full 6-hour blocks, so you can choose the depth that matches what you need — a focused single topic in 90 minutes, or a full day of work in 6 hours, which can also be split across two consecutive days.
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Betrayal trauma often shows up as intrusive thoughts about the betrayal, hypervigilance or checking behaviors, trouble sleeping, emotional numbness, and a shaken sense of trust in your own judgment. These are trauma responses, not a sign that something is wrong with you — and they're very treatable.
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Many relationships not only survive infidelity but become more honest and connected than before — when both partners are willing to do the work. Recovery isn't guaranteed, and it isn't quick, but it's more possible than most people believe going in.
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It varies. Some couples notice a shift in communication within 6 to 10 sessions of focused work. Longer-standing patterns, like rebuilding trust after a betrayal, often benefit from an intensive to jump-start the work, followed by ongoing weekly sessions.
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Yes. Ketamine is legal when prescribed off-label by a licensed medical provider and administered under medical supervision — which is how it's delivered here, through a partnership with Journey Clinical. It's not self-administered or recreational use.
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No — this practice is private-pay only. Sessions are eligible for out-of-network reimbursement, and Mentaya is available to handle the superbill submission and insurance follow-up for you, so you're not stuck doing the paperwork yourself.
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A free 15-minute call to talk through what's going on, answer your questions about fit and format, and figure out next steps together — no pressure to book afterward.